How to Enjoy Tea in the Best and Most Proper Way

When you think of teatime, do you also think of good manners? It seems so fitting for you to dress up, and act fancy and proper while you have afternoon tea the British way.  

In America, the etiquette of afternoon tea is not widely known. You might see people poking fun at the fanciness of afternoon tea. They dunk their scones, swirl their tea with their teaspoons, and put their pinkies up so they can pretend to act extra fancy — but this is improper etiquette, and very rude — indeed!

If you ever have a chance to enjoy tea with the Royals in England, you might want to polish up your table manners. Here are 25 tea etiquette rules you should practice when having afternoon tea the English way.

  1. Pinky’s Up? Absolutely Not!

Never ever put your pinky up while you hold your teacup. While this is considered a fancy habit for some drinks, it is preposterous and rude while you are having afternoon tea. Why? — you might come across as an elitist. It comes from a common misconception that stemmed from back in the day — that common folk ate with all five fingers and high-class people ate delicate food with only three fingers or so. Keep those pinkies down, for goodness sake.

  1. Home of Your Teacup Handle

English tea cups have handles, and those handles have a proper place. Your teacup handle should always sit in the 3 o’clock position on your saucer. 

  1. Hold Your Teacup by the Handle

Learning how to hold your teacup properly might take a little practice. Don’t put your finger through the handle of the teacup. Many teacup handles are incredibly small, and a lot of Americans find it quite difficult to slip their fingers through the impossibly little handles. But, teacups were never meant to be held in this manner. 

To hold your teacup, place your index and middle fingers on the back side of the handle and put your thumb over the front side. Your fingers and thumb may meet each other through the tea handle, but you will want to keep your fingers from curling through the handle itself. Support your teacup with your ring and pinky fingers — and remember to keep that pinky down.

  1. Don’t Cradle Your Cup

When you bring your teacup up to your lips to have a sip, do not cradle your teacup with your hands. You should hold your teacup by the handle and nothing else. This is a very different practice compared to the tea manners in the Eastern world — where teacups have no handles and cradling your cup is short of ceremonious. 

  1. Adding Milk to Your Tea

Some people will make a fuss and insist that milk be added to your teacup before you pour your tea, but you don’t need to. Teaware used to be fussy, cheap, and temperamental. In order to prevent your cup from cracking or shattering, you would want to pour your milk into your teacup before adding hot tea — this would temper the milk. 

Today, teaware is made with a higher standard. When you add milk to your tea, your teacup won’t crack. It’s also best to add milk after you pour your tea so you can clearly see how much milk you are adding. If you add milk to any kind of tea, make sure it is black tea. You never want to add milk — or sugar — to white, green, oolong, or herbal teas. 

  1. Please, Don’t Add Cream to Your Tea

Cream is wonderful for your coffee, but it is horrible for your tea. The heavy fat content and the thickness of cream are a perfect complement to your hot cup of strong coffee. But, this same heavy cream overpowers the delicate flavor of black tea. 

You should only add sugar and milk to black tea and no other kind of tea. When you do add milk, it is best to add whole milk — why? The fat content in whole milk brings out the natural flavors of black tea and adds an extra layer of deliciousness for your tastebuds to enjoy. Fat-free, one, and two-percent milk dilute your tea and leaves it tasting watered down, weak, and flat. 

  1. Where to Rest Your Tea Spoon

If you’ve added anything to your tea, you will want to mix it with a teaspoon. Once your teaspoon has been used, you should place that spoon on your saucer, behind your teacup — never keep your teaspoon inside your cup. Make sure your teaspoon isn’t resting on your teacup — it should be sitting far enough away on your saucer that it shouldn’t clink or make noise when you pick up your teacup to take a sip.

  1. How to Stir Your Tea

There is a right and wrong way to stir your tea. If you’ve added milk or sugar to your tea, gently take your teaspoon and move it from the 6 o’clock position to the 12 o’clock position about 3 times or so. This brings us to the next rule —

  1. Never Swirl Your Tea

When you mix milk and sugar into your tea you should never swirl your tea around. No one wants to watch you make a whirlpool with your tea. You do not want to make noise and clank your teaspoon on your cup either, because it’s rude. If you swirl your tea around, you not only risk clinking your spoon against your cup but you also risk scratching the teaware — and that is incredibly rude. 

  1. Don’t Put the Silver Spoon in Your Mouth

After you’ve properly stirred your sugar and milk into your tea, never ever put your teaspoon into your mouth. Your spoon is for stirring, not for tasting. Once you’ve stirred your tea — from 6 to 12 o’clock — put the teaspoon behind your cup.

  1. The Role of Your Saucer

If you are sitting and enjoying afternoon tea, your saucer will stay on the table. Never pick up your saucer — only your teacup. If you are at a garden tea or enjoying tea while standing, you should hold your saucer and bring your cup of tea with you as you enjoy chatting with company and friends.

  1. Pouring and Serving the Tea

Tea should be served by the host — it’s quite improper for tea to be poured by the waitstaff. Friendship has always been at the heart of afternoon tea, and out of respect for your guests, you should offer to pour their cups of tea for them — from friend to friend. When you fill their cups, make sure to leave room for them to add milk and sugar if they wish. Never fill a teacup all the way to the top — only fill it about three-quarters of the way. 

  1. Slurping, Swishing, and Sipping

Slurping loudly is a common form of respect and manners in many Eastern countries. But, slurping your afternoon tea is not proper or polite at all. You should take care to make absolutely no sound while you’re eating, drinking, or stirring. Always sip your tea quietly. — and never swish tea around your mouth for any reason.

  1. Don’t Blow It! Let Your Tea Cool Down

You don’t want to blow on your tea to cool it down. Allow your tea to cool down on its own before you take small sips. You are enjoying a delicate cup of afternoon tea, not a large mug of hot liquid.

  1. Please, Don’t Call it High Tea

Afternoon tea and high tea are not one and the same. You might think that the words “high tea” have a nice fancy ring to them, but high tea is not fancy at all. The word “high” does not come from “high-class”, and its history is rooted in the working class. Afternoon tea — on the other hand — is a fancy, proper, and elegant event that is adorned with finger sandwiches, scones, and sweets.

  1. Organizing Your Tiered Tea Stand

Afternoon tea is made complete with a three-tiered stand — and this has its own set of rules. The bottom tier is for sweets and desserts. The middle tier is for finger sandwiches. The top tier is reserved for warmed scones. If you put your scones on the top, the rising heat won’t melt your desserts or warm your sandwiches. It was also common practice for your scones to be kept warm by covering them up on the top tier. 

  1. The Order of Eating

Does it surprise you that there is an order of eating? You will want to start with your savory food and end with your sweets. Eat your sandwiches first, your scone second, and your desserts last. 

  1. Eat with Your Hands

It might think it’s rude to eat with your hands. You believe that eating with silverware is much fancier and much more appropriate for afternoon tea. — But this is not correct. Eating with your hands is very polite during afternoon tea. Finger sandwiches and bite-sized treats are perfect for eating with your hands and don’t need silverware most of the time. 

Silverware is provided for soft and squishy cakes and scones that must be spread with jam and cream. Use your fingers for eating, when you are able, and use silverware when it is necessary. 

  1. Don’t Lick Your Fingers

You will want to eat sandwiches, scones, and most of your afternoon tea goodies with your fingers. But, this can leave your fingers quite messy at times. It is very bad manners to lick your fingers clean. Instead, use your napkin to clean your fingers in an unobvious and subtle way. Always dab your mouth clean, and never wipe it with your napkin. 

  1. The Proper Place for Your Napkin

Your napkin should stay in your lap. If you must leave the table, set your folded napkin on the left side of your table setting. Don’t put your napkin on your plate and don’t put your napkin on your chair. 

  1. Small Sips and Tiny Bites

Remember to stay as quiet as possible while enjoying afternoon tea. This means you should take small sips, and small bites of food. You should never chug your tea or swig your tea back. You should also take small bites of your treats. Never shove and stuff food into your mouth — and finish your bites before you take another bite. 

  1. How to Eat Your Scone

Never ever cut your scone in half and dollop them with cream and jam. The proper way to eat a scone is to break off small chunks and add cream and jam to each bite. 

You should never dip your scone in cream or jam — always use your utensils to spread the toppings otherwise you will get crumbs all over the place and make a mess. You especially don’t want to do this with shared sides of cream and jam.

Be sure to scoop an appropriate amount of scone toppings onto your own plate — using the cream and jam utensils that have been provided to you. You should also never use your own utensils to scoop these toppings onto your plate.

  1. Never Dunk Your Scone

Scones were never meant to be dunked. They are not biscotti, they are a much more delicate pastry. Dunking your scone is not only rude, but it leaves crumbs and mush in the bottom of your teacup which may tempt you to use your teaspoon for things other than gently stirring — how rude!

  1. Dress for the Occasion 

Afternoon tea — even in England — is a special occasion, and you should dress appropriately. A smart casual dress code is perfect for afternoon tea. And when you dress up it makes the occasion all the more special, memorable, and fun. 

  1. Put Your Phone Away

Never ever put your phone on the tea table. No one wants their restful afternoon tea interrupted by a ringing phone. You should be fully present and enjoy every moment of afternoon tea — this is meant to be a respite from the busy world around you.

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